LGBTQ Relationship Violence
When it comes to interpersonal violence, people who identify as LGBTQ face unique challenges in reaching out for resources. The following information is provided by the Northwest Network, a Seattle-based organization founded by and for LGBTQ survivors and offering numerous resources for survivors, their friends and families.
If you or a friend is in a violent relationship, there is help available.
- Violence Prevention Programs | 208-885-6757
- LGBTQA Office | 208-885-6583
- Counseling & Testing Center | 208-885-6716
- Alternatives to Violence of the Palouse (ATVP) | 208-883-4357
If you need a confidential advocate to walk you through the process of getting you the help that you need regarding sexual assault, domestic violence or stalking, contact ATVP.
- Moscow Police Department | 208-882-2677
To report sexual assault or domestic violence, contact the Moscow police Department.
- Inland Oasis | 208-596-4449
This local nonprofit provides services for LGBTQA individuals, including free HIV testing and condoms, and gender-variant and youth support groups.
- National Sexual Assault Hotline | 800-656-HOPE
Are You in a Abusive Relationship?
Emotional abuse in same-sex or queer relationships can be subtle and confusing. The following list is adapted from “Lesbian Violence, Lesbian Victims: How to identify battering in relationships,” by Lee Evans and Shelly Banister. The article appeared in "Lesbian Ethics", Vol. 4, No. 1.
Please note the use of pronouns is used with the acknowledgment that not all individuals identify on the gender-specific spectrum.
Here are some good questions to ask yourself:
- Do I withhold information from my partner about my social interactions for fear of what she may do or say?
- Do I have the feeling that it is somehow “bad” if I want to be emotionally intimate with someone other than my partner?
- Does this relationship prevent me from feeling that I am part of a community, or from maintaining a support system?
- When I am around my partner and other friends or family, am I nervous about what she might say or do to embarrass or humiliate me?
- Does my partner seem to “take over” my friendships?
- Do I ever find myself making excuses for my partner’s behavior when we are out in public?
- Do I feel like I am isolated from my friends and family, or feel like I have to stop spending time with my acquaintances and can only be involved with her circle of friends?
- When I catch my partner in lies and then question her, does she then make me feel like I’ve done something wrong, or make me question my own sense of reality?
- Do I have feelings of being controlled, isolated, intimidated or exhausted?
- Do I experience shame or guilt in my relationship with my partner?